A Takate-Kote Tutorial
When people think about rope bondage, one tie that will always stands out is the Takate Kote. Often mistaken with the Gote Shibari since they could be viewed as twins. From the front, they are almost exactly the same. When viewed from behind — Love me some reverse cowgirl — you can easily distinguish the two by the arm placement. Takate Kote places the arms up towards the middle of the back forming an x-shape, while the Gote keeps the arms parallel with the floor. Why is this a big deal? It’s not. The biggest difference between the two, is this one is far more difficult to escape from. In practice, both are suitable for the same applications. For example, you could use either box tie to perform an Ebi or use them as a chest harness during a suspension.
On the surface, this tie looks like an engineered science project and can become more confusing once you see all the variations that can made with it. If you followed the foundational tutorials, it is actually quite simple to tie. — No skipping a head. Go watch them! — Once skills are developed, it can be easily tied in a few minutes. This tutorial covers a classic variation of a Takate Kote.
With any traditional Shibari or Kinbaku, you could argue what is right and what is wrong. You will never find a true right way because every partner, sub, bunny is different. This makes for a tricky subject. Is the this chest harness safe to perform? This version is reasonably safe with one exception. Nothing in rope bondage is 100% safe. — If a rigger tells you otherwise, laugh hysterically in their face while walking away eating your peanut butter and jelly sandwich. — Every body type is different and its impossible to account for every little nuance in any tie. This is why so many Box tie variations exist. You may find this one to be terrible. — Buckets of tears! — If any type of rope bondage does not feel good to you…find a new one. Variations are not just meant for beauty, they are created for comfort and safety.
A traditional Takate Kote or box tie starts with arm placement. You always start with placing the arms behind the back and tying them off with your preferred Single Column Tie. In this example we use a Somerville Bowline. From this point you could perform either chest harness. It all depends on arm placement. In this instance we will pull the wrist upwards towards the middle of the back. This can create unwanted pressure on the wrists and the Ulnar nerves. Safety is of the upmost importance. Always check in with your bottom two ways. — Three ways if you are telepathic…which you’re not. — Ask them directly if they are feeling any pain, pinches, or anything uncomfortable. Follow up that check-in with a physical one by touching any bound part of their body checking for cold body parts, an early sign of circulation loss. Then have them squeeze your thumb, if their grip has weakened or they are not comfortable in any way, it’s time to end the session.
With the popularity of box ties and the desire to perform suspensions, many riggers fall in to a dangerous trap. — Imminent doom with fire and brimstone. — The dangers of nerve damage is very real. Many riggers will argue that correct technique and rope placement will mitigate the risk of injury. This has some factual truth and it’s also a recipe for disaster. Even with perfect form, nerve damage can still occur. Why? Each and every person is different and there is no reliable way to determine exact position of their underlying nerves. This means some Box ties will always be dangerous to bottoms no matter which technique you use. Their is no reliable way to know ahead of time either! By performing a box tie or any rope bondage for that matter, you will be putting someone at risk. Watching any of these tutorials will not make you qualified to tie anyone, including yourself. These tutorials only cover the basics of the tie. There is a wealth of safety information that is not even covered. A video and voice over can not portray the subtle differences in tension, pressure, resistance, friction, emotion, sight, breathing, and many others. Proper safety can only be learned from a rope bondage professional.